- Developing Ministry
- Wellbeing in Ministry
The Revd Andrew de Smet (pictured) is the Diocesan counsellor. He is a BACP (British Association of Counselling & Psychotherapy) accredited counsellor and can offer counselling (general, stress management, depression, anxiety, bereavement, spiritual issues), or a one off confidential space to talk something through.
He can also offer short term supervision to reflect on difficult or challenging work or pastoral situations. This service is available to clergy (including NSMs) their families, diocesan employees and readers; strict confidentiality is kept.
In parish and work situations there are occasions when relationships sour. When conflict seems to be going beyond what can be settled between two parties then it can be helpful to get an impartial third party to help those involved to work out an agreement. This is a voluntary process and involves the mediator initially seeing the parties separately to see if they will engage in mediation, hear their perception of the situation and explore possibilities for resolution. This is followed by a joint meeting which is organised to feel safe for both parties and helps them reach an agreement.
Andrew de Smet has training in mediation, as does General Manager of Wydale Hall Mark Rance (01723 859270; firstname.lastname@example.org).
Bridge Builders (www.bbministries.org.uk)
are a Christian organisation with wide experience in this area (please
contact Andrew De Smet to discuss funding). There's a leaflet you can
download below with more information.
times of change or stress it can be helpful to reflect on the pattern
or direction of one’s ministry. A work consultant has the insight and
skills to facilitate this process. Please contact Andrew De Smet for
The Life of the Spirit
There are many
opportunities to explore matters of faith and spirituality. There are
retreats and conferences held throughout the year at Wydale, the
diocesan retreat house, and at St Oswald’s Pastoral Centre, Sleights near Whitby.
Regular quiet days and an annual retreat are recommended for anyone in
ministry, and are beneficial for spouses.
The Retreat Association signposts retreat houses across the country at www.retreats.org.uk. You can apply to your Archdeacon for financial assistance for retreats or conferences.
Quiet Garden Trust has several gardens in this area, some of which can
be used for quiet days. Your Archdeacon or Andrew De Smet will give you
details if you are interested, or go direct to the Quiet Garden Trust
Also strongly recommended
for anyone in ministry – and beneficial to any Christian – is having a
spiritual director or soul friend. The following people coordinate
spiritual direction in their respective Archdeaconry:
You can download the leaflet below which has more information on finding a spiritual director.
The Archbishop’s Coordinator and Adviser in Pastoral Care:
The Revd Andrew de Smet at email@example.com or 07583 279459.
Alternative contact for counselling arrangements: Elizabeth Harland, firstname.lastname@example.org or 07855 074594.